Love is bird, let it fly with wings open wide.

There was once a girl who had a magnificent bird for a friend. Everyday the bird used to come spend an hour with her and go back to its home. They talked and laughed and spent the one hour very happily. Everyday the girl would eagerly wait for the time she would spend with the bird. One day she thought that if she tried to find a way to keep the bird with her always then she would always be happy. So the next day when the bird came she trapped the bird and put it in a cage. Eventually she lost interest in the bird and also the bird started losing its charm… and one day the bird died.. She realized then that had she not caged the bird, she would have always been interested in the bird and the bird would have lived. She killed wat she cherished due to her selfishness..

Love is similar to the bird.. The person u love is very much the bird.. In a relationship u should let the other to be independent and respect him/her for wat he/she is ( I’m not gona talk bout trust here coz it is to be understood that it is present. Trust is the very foundation of any relationship) only then will your love be alive and keep u alive… if u try to cage it, and control it the love will eventually fade. And as always realizations would come too late to remedy your mistake…

Understanding and Accepting each other – a simple example :

I have a friend named Sanjai. He’s been married for two years now to a woman named Vidhya. His favourite colour is blue and his wife was not exactly fond of it. Her favourite colour was a leaf green and he hated that colour. Why they hated those colours is still a mystery to me. What they did was something quiet unique. Sanjai went to the park or a place which had a garden in it. And Vidhya decorated the house in blue. Bed spreads in blue, curtains in blue, etc… Eventually Sanjai started to get used to the colour leaf green and Vidhya got used to the colour blue. There is no compromise or adjustment in their behaviour. They both found ways to accept what the other liked. This is a conscious effort. Here we observe that instead of trying to change the other person they figured a way to like what the other liked. We would term this as understanding and accepting each other.

People in general fail to realise that what we need, is to understand one another and accept people as they are. The compromises that we make in life, eventually leads to build a frustration. When you want a person to compromise it indirectly implies that you want “him/her” - to do, to be or to think the way you want him/her to.